Why are kids suffering from mental/emotional disorders, called rotten? If you do the research, that is the mainstream word for a child. Forget that he’s in pain too and needs help. He was just born evil. Yes, that’s what it is.
- Is it nature or nurture?
- Did God create “rotten kids”?
- Do storks carry them and drop them at our doorsteps?
- Is the responsibility being conveniently shifted from parent to child?
- Or is it an innate pessimistic view? Let’s take a look….
- A tendency to stress the negative or unfavorable or to take the gloomiest possible view: “We have seen too much defeatism, too much pessimism, too much of a negative approach” (Margo Jones).
- The doctrine or belief that this is the worst of all possible worlds and that all things ultimately tend toward evil.
- The doctrine or belief that the evil in the world outweighs the good.
Look at all the results on Yahoo for “rotten children”. Amazing, isn’t it?
What about adults? Is there a mainstream word for hyperactive adults that is as offensive as the word “rotten” for children?
Nope. Didn’t think so.
It sucks to be a kid.
Teen Suicide is Increasing. As if that’s any news?
So kids get the bum wrap again.
Kids, like their adult counterparts are a product of their upbringing and their environment. If a kid is “rotten” it’s most likely because of the actions (or inactions) of one or both parents, the friends they keep, etc. Which was most likely brought on by the same thing occurring over and over again, generation after generation.
There are some really, genuinely bad kids out there, don’t get me wrong. But there is a reason (or reasons) for their behavior. It doesn’t just “happen.”
I could go on….maybe another time.
Sorry I’ve been scarce lately, TB. Been busy!
The human mind is a very complicated thing TB. Some kids grow up with everything and still end up being axe murders… some grow up with nothing and end up being leaders. To blame it on parents or children is non-productive. Maybe we should just find the causes.
DB
Hmmmm…I really think there is a lot involved. A child that is not behaving the way you want them to in some cases are just being a kid. But in some it is nature, others more about nurture, and always a little mix of both. The mind is a terrible thing to taste.
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thanks, Jay
We ar eall born good, but with a terrible attraction towards doing evil, Once upon a time, people considered the prime function of marriage to be the creation of a zone of safety and instruction for children. Society, for its part, attempted to support and foster that notion.
Fortunately for us, it appears society has rejected that notion and instead deemed marriage to be primarily ordered towards whatever feels best for the couple involved. Freed from any societal or internal constraints, parents and children today either go in divergent paths, or overcompensate to a degree where parents believe their children are the ones who truly know what’s best for themselves.
On the plus side, at least we’re not being old fashioned anymore.
I believe we are born sponges with a proclivity to suck up the most powerful energy in our given environemnts, be it good or bad. I believe that it is the strength of that encoding or expectation, morals and behaviour that determines who we CAN be not necessarily who we WILL be.
We do grow in vacuums and so many external forces are working on us that DO over power the instilled info by our parents be them good or bad. We cannot ignore the power or genetics and that some are just stronger than others while others are inherently weaker in character and fortitude. Our parents are our guiders if you will, nothing is etched in stone. It is through trial and error we shape ourselves but nothing really can be noted as a predictor to future events.
We can only hope as parents that we pass on those qualities that are worthy and hope that in time of concern our children can call on those things they remember to get them threw, if we are real lucky they may even ask us for help. I donot believe anyone is bad or good and I do noy believe we have a propensity to be attracted to bad things as that can be subjective. I think it is natural to test all boundaries including those set out by any authority not just our parents, that IS natural as it is about shaping who we are and are not.
If I am told it is illegal to wear blue on Fridays I may just wear blue on a Friday to see what happens. Does that make me bad or have a proclivity toward bad things? No it means I need information from my world . If I am told that I must not kill, a universally acceptable wrong and I kill then that is defined in the serious degree and is exactly why it gets the response that it does mor so than the blue of FRiday crime.
Is there such a thing as rotten kids. OF COURSE AS THERE IS SUCH A THING AS ROTTEN PEOPLE AND ROTTEN APPLES. What does that really mean I would look at who is doing the defining for example too many children are overdosing on Ritalin not because they need it because they have ignorant lazy adults in every aspect of their lives. Are they overactive or just bored with being shaped in molds? I say look to the diet, adults, economics and supports and other strong influences when those are in check and still a problem then it can safely be said this child is a problem waiting if no interventions are put into place.
Thank you all so much for the comments.
DB, I have to disagree with you a bit. But before I go on, what do you mean by “some kids get everything”? You mean, monetary and/or possesions?
“Some kids get nothing”? No T-Bird, no dance lessons?
I’d hate to assume that’s what you mean. In any event, the question should be…. “Did they receive love, attention, touch and emotional support?
Scott Peterson was fed everything on a silver platter, yet he killed his wife, right? But will we never find out if he received love growing up? Was their violence in his home? What happened. You and I will never find out especially if Scott Peterson is in denial of it himself.
I totally agree with this.
Basically the purpose of my post was just my overall irritation with the word “rotten” being used to explain a “problem” child. That person/kid is suffering — why the name-calling?
There’s just so much evidence for original sin. Not our faults really but so true. That’s why we all need a hand, need someone to help us, someone bigger than we are…
Yes, children need help. Being called “rotten” doesn’t help.